lazyentitlednarcissist asked: You're right that anyone of any sex is capable of exhibiting masculine or feminine traits. That's because they're gendered ideas, not sexed ideas. So, if someone's GID is masculine, they've attached certain characteristics to that which have nothing to do with their sex. That, to me, makes the concept a lot less silly than if it were attached to one's sex. All of that aside, have you read anything about how agender folks experience gender? Sounds like you might share some common ideas.
That’s very true. I guess I have trouble identifying when things stopped being attached to sex and became their own entity as gender. Like, at what point in our social evolutionary history did that happen? How did it happen? Because gender seems to describe sex in a way, you know? Like, if you look at the words they use, “masculinity” and “femininity”, they are used to describe sexes as well as genders. Maybe I’m just struggling with the language of it all and it’s getting my concepts confused.
I have looked some at agendered folks as well as gender-neutral and neutrois. From what I understand I don’t think I’m neutrois, but everyone’s definition of each of them seems to differ. I kinda which there was someone gender-neutral or agendered I could talk to. That would bring a lot more insight into my understanding of these terms and experiences and could bring more clarity.
Anonymous asked: stop obsessing over your gender title, you admit you are comfortable with your female body, and characteristics and you can call yourself queer/bi whatever but people who don't fit in the gender binary have an ACTUAL REASON to identify their gender differently, you just seem to be obsessed over the title and the novelty of it all and it just seems annoying and self absorbed at this point. at least that's how you come across right now,maybe you have your own reasons but it doesn't appear that way
Oh, anonyface. My experience of gender has always been rather removed from the binaried experience of gender from when I was very little. From a young age I questioned my gender identity and what made me a girl as opposed to a boy. I had short hair and was called “young man” quite a lot and I found a strange comfort in it. Being androgynous felt right to me, not being perceived as a traditional little girl felt liberating and real, and that continued throughout my elementary school years. Once I hit puberty, I lost a lot of that androgyny because my body reads very female. So now when I dress, I don’t dress for myself, or the way I would if my body matched my perception of myself in my head. I dress for the body I was given, which falls back on feminine clothing that was cut to traditionally flatter my body type. Just because I don’t experience intense dysphoria over having the body I have or being perceived by others the way I’m perceived does not mean I don’t have an “actual reason” for exploring my gender. Maybe I will find that identifying as a cisgendered woman will be the most accurate description of myself. But it’s never felt that way when I was growing up, I don’t feel that way now, and I am allowed to explore this through community interaction just like anybody else. A lack of discomfort is not a lack of authenticity. It says more about my personality than it does my gender identity, in my opinion.
Either way, this was a rude ask. I’m not obsessing, I’m allowed to be comfortable with my sexual organs, and still have the right to question my gender identity. It’s not for you to say whether I have an actual reason or not. And trying to get in touch with who I am and how I identify myself is not self absorbed but healthy self-care. Maybe it was easier for you to identify where you lie among the various realms of identity but it isn’t for me. Besides, this is my blog. If you don’t like reading about this stuff, then don’t follow me or ignore my “Read Mores”. I’m going to talk about my life on here and if you don’t like that then stop following, by all means. Don’t waste your time.
i’m sorry i just literally don’t understand why you would turn a character cis when they don’t need to be and it doesn’t add anything to the character
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